Isn’t love grand? Especially new relationships. In fact, the beginning of a new partnership feels like an idyllic Hollywood rom-com: the world seems to glow, you’ve got a smile on your face and a spring in your step. But fast-forward a few years and it’s a different story. Date night gets replaced by ferrying kids to their never-ending stream of activities and the closest you and your partner get to romance is binge watching Netflix, as you lounge on the couch together, in three-week old pajamas. If this scenario sounds like your life, you’re not alone.
Because the truth is, in today’s world, ‘being busy’ has become a badge of honour. We seem to take pride in putting ourselves last, putting the most meaningful relationships in our lives on the back burner, telling ourselves we will make time ‘one day’.
But the reality is, if we don’t make time for our relationship now, we end up getting lost in the humdrum of everyday routine and as a result, our connection suffers. Big time. We feel disconnected from our spouse and that is a dangerous road to travel.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. If you need to learn how to make your relationship a priority, we are here to help you make it happen.
Relationships do not have a pause button
Unlike other areas of your life where you can shelf tasks to a ‘do it later file’, healthy relationships need consistent attention. Every single day your relationship is a work in progress. That’s why carving out time with your partner to go on a date-night, where you have no other distractions is so important. It helps you to pay attention to the small details, check-in with your partner on how they actually are without all the usual distractions of your life.
Couples who make their relationship a priority have a better connection
Even taking the time to schedule in ‘we time’ for a quick stroll has shown benefits in couples who made that time just to be together. So it makes even more sense to schedule a proper date night (or day) where you can really connect over a shared experience. When you make the time to participate in a fun activity you are acknowledging that your relationship is worthy of your time. And at the same time, you are creating memories that you can both reminisce on for a lifetime.
Every area of your life improves when your relationship is running smoothly
Have you noticed how that when you’re happy in your relationship every other aspect of your life seems to go better? That’s no coincidence. Kristie Dana, a certified clinical counselor with a practice in Vancouver, says making your relationship a priority has a positive effect on every area of your life.
“If couples can carve out time for a date-night on a regular basis, engaged together in an activity, it makes each day run smoother because they’re connected. When they don’t, life becomes routine and mundane and interactions between partners become shorter; they become more stressed and clipped in their responses because they’re not making the time to emotionally engage with one another on a consistent basis. “
She says that when that happens, personal stress levels go up, household stress goes up and that then affects everyone, especially the children in the family. But Dana says if couples make sure they take quality time to consistently strengthen their relationship, it is going to have a positive impact on their longevity, their mental health, their emotional health and the lives of those around them. “Once people are in that groove of being more content with their life they are going to be happier and more productive in every other aspect of their life as well.”
When you look at it like that, making your relationship a priority really is a no-brainer. Why not take the first step towards a healthier, connected partnership by purchasing one of our one-time experience boxes? We have plenty of options to suit all tastes, but if it’s been awhile, our Out on the Town Box is a great way to remember just how much fun date night used to be.
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